You can either have positive self talk or negative self talk. Try to be positive even when your thoughts turn cruel or negative. Say I will get through this I am worth it. You can even write it on a post it note and stick them on the bathroom mirror somewhere that you will see them every morning. Doing this helps us to get out of our destructive thoughts. Or you can read a little book of positive affrimations.
It really does help to get you thinking positive about yourself. It raises yourself esteem. It helps me. I read a daily quote everyday to start out my day. It helps me to get into a positive mindset.
So go ahead start today turn a frown to a smile.