Being a caregiver

Emotionally stressed out. I have been helping everybody else but me. I have been putting my self care last. And it is taking a toll on me. My mental stability is compromised.

It is hard when two of your friends need your help in a crisis in two day time period. It is emotionally draining and then work calls me because they need a pca to help a client. I have a hard time saying no. Yet I did clear my schedule two days in a row. I finally feel a little bit better.

I have a busy weekend coming up. It will be hard but I will get through it.

Self talk…

You can either have positive self talk or negative self talk. Try to be positive even when your thoughts turn cruel or negative. Say I will get through this I am worth it. You can even write it on a post it note and stick them on the bathroom mirror somewhere that you will see them every morning. Doing this helps us to get out of our destructive thoughts. Or you can read a little book of positive affrimations.

It really does help to get you thinking positive about yourself. It raises yourself esteem. It helps me. I read a daily quote everyday to start out my day. It helps me to get into a positive mindset.

So go ahead start today turn a frown to a smile.

Reward Yourself…

Go and go out to eat once a week to reward yourself for getting through another week. Or when you have reached a goal treat yourself.

Rewards go a long way. It can be a motivation factor to get up each morning. Or it can be part of your routine. Look forward to your reward. Even animals love to get rewarded. It sure helps me see I love to eat, so I go and eat out once a week at a restaurant. It is a reward and tastes great.

The little things we do in life makes all the difference.

Support systems help a lot.

It is crucial to have a support system. Whether it is friends or family. They can help see the signs and symptoms before you do. They also can just listen to you. That is one thing as a friend you can do to help. They just want to be heard. Usually nothing more. If you don’t have a support system join a support group and go to that. Anything helps.

My experience with support is that it is a benefits out weighs the it negatives. It helps navigate through the tough times and sail through the good times. You should celebrate the good times when you are doing well.

Don’t be too hard on yourself

Nobody is probably harder on yourself than you. Everybody has hard days. If u have been depressed for months and you have tried everything possible don’t give up. It took me 3 years to get out a funk and thought it would last forever. My attitude had to change I was negative all the time and was too hard on myself. And once I changed this I started coming out of my depression. I still take medicine but it helps having a positive attitude too. Just because it does not get better right away doesn’t mean it won’t get better. There will be better days.

It’s ok to be you…

It’s ok to be yourself. Even if someone thinks you are a little eccentric. Outside the box or norm. Embrace that weirdness. I might talk to myself all the time and answer myself too. But whoever is listening let them listen. Maybe say something real funny. And let them think your insane. Jk.

Getting back to seriousness. I think you should embrace yourself all of your imperfections and little quirks. Not just the good qualities about yourself.

Taking on a different point of view…

Today I went to a conference called women and spirituality. And I had a psychic say that I can communicate with the spirit world. I think it would be cool to do this but my voices say stupid degrading things so I know that it is in my brain and not anything else. She also said I have protectors like a giant guardian angel, a rattle snake. And that if I don’t want to hear the voices anymore envision being inside a bubble. I don’t want to be in a bubble I just want the voices gone for good. Well, I just spent 30 dollars to understand that voices do not come from the spiritual world. They come from inside my head.